One day I started thinking I had a problem. And when I think I have a problem sometimes I can start thinking there is a problem with everything.
But I know now the real reason I have a problem is because I think there is a problem.
The question to ask of myself when this occurs is: What if there WASN’T a problem? And what if there was NOTHING to solve?
It all works out one way or another, or it doesn’t, and we have no control over that.
But if I make a big deal out of it, the problem only gets bigger. And the mind has a tendency to grab a hold of it and obsess. Then, I am truly suffering in paralysis.
I tell myself this mantra: No problem, no problem. Meaning, if I don’t make it into a problem there isn’t one.
Whatever I thought was a problem will pass … and I can relax.
Plus I trust I’ve got the inner resources to deal with it when and IF necessary in the present. Not after it’s happened or worrying what might happen next.
There tend to be 3 types of people:
- Those who tend to say yes
- Those who tend to say no
- And those who tend to say I’m not sure
Yes people tend to gravitate towards a positive, open-minded nature, love people, want to do everything they can to help, and are eager to try new things.
No people tend to be more protective, sometimes cynical, quick to judge, critical and negative.
I’m not sure people tend to keep their options open, waiting to see how they’ll feel when the moment comes.
Another way of describing these 3 types are:
- And Huh?
I’m an UH-huh person. My negative mind can cause me to search for the problem because I assume negative outcomes. It derives from anxiety because my need to fix stems from wanting to relieve myself from feeling any negative discomfort.
But, what do all three types have in common? We’re ALL clinging to something.
Uh-HUH! Types cling to pleasure. The want the feel-good pill. Their opportunity is to realize that pleasure is fleeting but they can still become attached to it.
UH-uh! Types cling to aversion. They tend to worry things won’t work out for them. So, they push away. They’ve become use to “finding problems” but these are also transitory. Like everything else, they come and go.
Huh? Types cling to confusion. They hang on to safety mechanisms such as pretending they don’t have a clue of what’s going on.
Although, we can gravitate toward a “type”—in every moment of every day we can find ourselves in any one of these categories.
The practice is for us to become aware of what we’re clinging to, especially when it seems like a problem and then, detach from it.
Not with an “I don’t care attitude” but with gratitude. Because when we detach, what we’re really letting go of is the past conditioning that creates problems in the first place.
No matter how much we grasp—whether it’s good, bad or neutral—it will slip between our fingertips. Impermanent is this life we’re in. Everything comes into being and then leaves us.
Sending you warm wishes and a life free of any problems!
P.s. If you feel you have an issue you would like to be free of check out my online course The Transformation Roadmap:)