4 Ways To Discover Your Greatest Happiness

4 Ways To Discover Your Greatest Happiness

Discovering who we are is an ever-evolving process, always changing, expanding, and growing.

We may think we have arrived, we think we can say that we know who we are now, and then in a snap of the fingers that moment is gone and something new arises—a new insight, a new awareness, a new interest or endeavor.

This is why we humans are a creative process. And why perceiving ourselves as a process can bring great happiness.

Here are 4 ways to experience great happiness and true freedom:

1. Be interested in who you are not.

Part of being truly happy and free is being interested in the mystery of all that we are not.

Becoming clearer about who we are not allows us to de-layer, empty, and let go of the conditioning that doesn’t serve us. We come closer to touching our true essence, our absolute nature.

I’ve discovered pieces of who I am not at various stages of my life.

Like when I had spiritual experiences and labeled myself a “spiritual person,” only to discover I cared a great deal more about what it means to be my best as a human.

Or when I wanted to be a teacher because I wanted to feel like I had “arrived,” yet overlooked the benefits of lifelong learning.

Or when I published my first book, sent it out into the world, and realized the many years I committed to it were over. Almost the next day after my book release, I felt the call to explore something new and write my next book on an almost entirely different subject.

It’s about having a shift in perception and letting go of what we thought we were but no longer are.

Even though you may not have a direct answer when you contemplate who you are not, it’s still worthy. It may encourage you to keep being interested in the exploration of you, to investigate the mystery of yourself, to hear your greater call and listen.

2. Don’t take things too seriously.

Real happiness and freedom come when we remind ourselves to lighten up, to not take our reactions, feelings, desires, or thoughts that feel important so seriously.

Try this: Don’t believe me. Don’t believe anyone else. Don’t believe yourself.

Try not to hold onto your present experiences for dear life, because it will change. I try to observe when I use my present experience to build myself up, or manipulate it to show me in a certain light, or try to make something more out of it than it is.

Every once in a while, laugh a little at yourself, at the funny workings of your mind, how silly they can become when you take things oh-too-seriously, and keep a sense of humor.

3. Be true to yourself.

On average, Americans have approximately 3–5 careers a lifetime. Why is this so?

Because we are constantly evolving, constantly changing, constantly learning more about ourselves. We wear a hat, try it on, get a degree, a promotion, commit years, weeks and hours and then realize there is something else we want that feels more in alignment with who we really are.

Somewhere, somehow we were taught that life shouldn’t change, that no one really changes, that we are the same person now that we were as an infant. And in some sense this is true.

We came into this world without any of the conditioning we developed in the years to follow. We were pure—brought into this world with a certain DNA that had a purpose, which is our own personal form of expressing our joys and what is meaningful to us out in the world.

The more we are true to ourselves, the closer we are to happiness and freedom.

4. Have the courage to live life fully.

What if you lived life fully? Engaged your dreams fully? Didn’t cheat it and just went for it?

What if you kept finding your edge? Stopped playing it safe and stretched a step beyond your comfort zone?

What if it didn’t matter what will happen later because you know that it will change?

And this is where I get a little heavy, but only for a moment for this too will change. As humans we know our lives will eventually end. Whatever comes into being will go out of being. Nothing in life is permanent. What we think we have will go away.

So, with this in mind, dive in to this thing called life. Live freely and creatively. Reach for the stars and meet your dreams. Since everything is changing anyway, we truly have nothing to lose.

Wishing you great happiness and true freedom!