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Below are my little Sunday love notes filled with insight on:

—freeing your passions.

—finding lasting peace and happiness.

—completing those dream projects.

—unleashing the creative current to electrify your day.

—creating more of what YOU (not anyone else!) want out of life.

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How to Return To Your Free Creative Nature

Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it’s exhausting for children to have to provide explanations over and over. – Antoine De Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince   The first time I painted, my world exploded.   I was 28 years old, and I remember dipping bristles into vivid blue pigment and smoothing them over a […]

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A Prescription To Combat Anxiety

Without realizing it, I spent the majority of my childhood in a constant state of anxiety. In my early twenties, after a break-up with a man I dearly loved (albeit a little obsessively) I tried to medicate my grief with too many cups of coffee, bottles of wine, and cigarettes.   I found myself one absurd sunny […]

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Finding Sanity When Life Feels Crazy

Once, when I was in a painting workshop, I hit a wall of resistance, totally stumped by what to paint next.   My painting teacher came over to explore some questions that could help unblock me. But my “wall” was concrete, or industrial metal, or super-duper spy-movie-like with some computer-code contraption locking all security systems […]

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Sailing Through Tough Times

There’s nothing worse than having a bad day (or week or years…)   Or when emotions take over and carry us away.   Or when our relationships bring challenges.   Or when we endure great loss.   Or when we wish that just once, when things started getting good, they stayed that way.   But difficult times are […]

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Simple Tips To Be Happy, Wild, And Free

In the past, I often wondered what it would be like to feel happy, wild, and free.   I fantasized about living in Europe, writing in cafes like Hemingway or even moving to Hawaii and wearing nothing but sarongs and flip flops all day. But in truth, these fantasies were empty.   I knew in […]

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Freedom From Your Inner-Judge.

I love to paint. I’m not a professional artist. I have no technique, and I’m not trained. But I love how the brush feels as it dips into color and moves across a white page.   Painting allows me to be free, to have fun and play. It also does something else: It shows me […]

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Accessing Your Intuition

During my second year at an arts conservatory, I took a detailed diagnostic test to determine the hemispheric dominance of my left and right brain.   People who tend to lean toward the left are logical, reality-based, practical, and intellectual, while people who tend to lean toward the right are artistic, intuitive, feeling, and imaginative. […]

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Instantaneous Happiness, Right Now.

I’ve had those days when I felt like my life was in the doldrums. When I felt stuck in the same-old, same-old and wondered how to get a pick me up. When I wished I had more passion or purpose, or maybe just a jolt of joy to shake things up.   Sometimes there were […]

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Loving The Adventure Of Life Even More

Ever since I can remember I liked to travel. It does something to me, something strange and oddly uncharacteristic: I’m suddenly very laid back.   When I travel I’ve got the right mindset. I know I will stand in lines, have to schlep heavy bags, or perhaps have delays. I know that I will be […]

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When Life Wants To Take You Somewhere Surprising

I’m an organized woman. And being a planner gets me in trouble. I know how to cross my “T’s” and dot my “I’s” to prepare for what might come.   I know how to make lists—very well. I know how to calendar myself and how to produce events. I know how to assess situations and […]

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How Happy People Stay Happy

When I was much younger and I was asked what I wanted out of life, I would say, “I just want to be happy…”   In my past, I suffered from debilitating depression. There was a period when even getting the dry-cleaning and buying toilet paper was difficult.   So I made it my mission to […]

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Finding New Inspiration.

20 years ago I studied with a writing teacher named Natalie Goldberg. She’s written several books, but at the time Writing Down The Bones and Wild Mind were my favorites.   Natalie was a Zen monk practitioner and fashioned her style of “writing practice” similar to the practice of her meditation.   She’d have her […]

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Stepping Through Resistance As We Meet Our Dreams

When I was doing my Spiritual Psychology Masters, part of the curriculum was a project that asked us to choose something we always wanted to do and commit to following it through,  completing it by the end of the year.   Whether that was writing a novel, or learning how to fly, or becoming a […]

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The True Meaning Of The Words: I And Love And You.

I’m writing a memoir about learning how to love. It stretches over the period of many decades. As I got older, the meaning of love changed. I sought for love in the approval from my mother, in my relationships with men, in searching for myself around the world, in sex, in spiritual communities.   As […]

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Getting A Break And Resting Your Head.

This week, I was thinking about what I wanted to write for my Sunday Letter and I couldn’t think of anything.   I wracked my brain for a special teaching; something from my past that I’d learned that might be helpful to share.   I tried to come up with an interesting story: checking within […]

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What We Do Has A Lot To Inform Us.

It was a dream of mine to be an artist. Ever since I was a kid, I wanted to express myself creatively.   I wanted to draw, but could only do lousy little doodles.   I wanted to act, but just did school plays.   I wanted to write, but was terrible at grammar.   […]

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Significantly Change A Difficult Relationship For The Good.

In my second year in my Masters in Spiritual Psychology program in 2003, we did a fascinating research project. We were asked to choose a relationship that we had the most difficulty with and for the year we were asked to make a commitment to working on it.   One of the ways was to […]

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The Greatest, Fastest, Surest Way To Experience Joy And Happiness.

I have this friend. Her name is Chausey Leebron. Chausey and I did our undergraduate at an arts conservatory together and then reconnected, oddly enough, 12 years later while getting our Masters in counseling psychology in the same program.   Chausey always shined brightly. She actually looks like an angel—I’m not kidding—blonde, stunning, radiant, shining. […]

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When Toxic Or Negative Energy Is Affecting You

I had the most uncomfortable dinner one Saturday night. I was meeting friends for dinner at the Knickerbocker restaurant on 9th and University in NYC. One of those friends is a 60-year old psychologist with quite an established practice in the city.   We were talking about a recent positive event in my life and […]

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A Steadfast Tool To Overcome Self-Doubt

Have you ever worked really hard at something, took a risk, dived in, gave it your all, did your best, knew in your heart that it was all worthwhile, and then when it was time to put it out into the world, wondered if it was any good?   I’ve experienced this with everything I’ve […]

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Learning How To Love Without Fear

I’d like to share a deeply personal story with you today… You see, in the past, I was someone who needed a lot of space. Intimacy scared the bejesus out of me. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, lovable enough, and could easily feel abandoned or rejected.   I’d keep people at arm’s length, […]

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After Loss, How To Feel Alive Again

I remember a time I was breaking up with someone I loved.   It was like a movie.   Me: Tears streaming down my face.   Him: Telling me I had a halo over my head and would always be his angel.   I watched him walk out the door as if in slow motion, […]

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Freedom From Fixing Yourself.

I admit it. My name is Lynn Newman and I’m a recovered spiritual self-help junkie.   I fell onto the spiritual path accidentally in my 20s when I moved to Santa Fe. I found myself meeting all sorts of healers and spiritual teachers in the new-age town.   I started with walking meditation as my gateway […]

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Mindfulness In The Kitchen And Calming Your Cravings.

We all have our “thing”. Our favorite food we grab to quell our anxiety or soothe our depression or make us happy. And we’ve all had that day when we’re totally stressed out.   We reach for quick food rather than take the time to cook something healthy for ourselves. But cooking healthfully and eating […]

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How To Find Enlightenment Anywhere, Anytime.

In my 20s, I had friends who were attending meditation retreats in isolated places all over the West Coast of the U.S. They begged me to go with them.   I’d say. Hell to the no. I can’t sit still in silence, even for a minute.   But when I was 35, a Buddhist teacher encouraged me […]

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Healing From A Bad Break Up.

I’m far from a perfect person and relationships from my past have shown me that. It’s where I’m most vulnerable. Relationships are a mirror to show us what has yet to be healed and, most of the time, it’s issues from childhood. Sometimes we want the person to save us or love us or give […]

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Embracing ALL Of Who You Are.

I can play many roles. And so can you I bet. I’m a writer, a painter, a teacher, a therapist. I can be childlike and sophisticated, intense and silly, spiritual and rebellious. I also have many personalities: I can be the girl in jeans and t-shirt, thick socks and boots, walking on a trail next […]

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You Have A Gift To Offer The World.

Did you know that, in a poll in 2013, 64 percent of the population of the USA—the richest and most influential country in the world—have never been abroad? If you’re an American and have had the opportunity to travel outside the country, this may surprise you. If you haven’t, you should definitely not feel alone. […]

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Facing Our Fears Like A Warrior.

When I started writing articles and teaching, I thought I had to be enlightened. I struggled with this, because unless I spoke my truth when things weren’t going well for me—as a writer, as an artist, or as a person—I wasn’t being real. And all I care about is being real. My brother always said, […]

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Freedom From Loneliness.

One of my greatest fears in life is to be alone. To explain why this is my greatest fear, here’s a very personal story: I was adopted at birth. It seems strange, I know, that I can remember lying in a crib in the hospital alone, but I do. It felt as though I was […]

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Emotionally Sensitive Or Empathetic Badass?

It may seem to those who don’t know me that I’m an extrovert. But the truth is, I’m not. I actually prefer to spend most of my time creating at home alone. I get nervous in social situations and sometimes have to call on my past acting experience to engage people with energy and involvement. […]

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6 Quick Fixes When Feelings Get The Best Of You.

I’m a sensitive, emotional person. I used to judge this as bad and wrong. But now I see it as my superhero power. Because I allow myself to feel my most tender places, I’m given the gift of coming closer to my heart, having a deeper sense of intuition, the capacity to release, and more […]

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Finding Peace While Being Busy

On my first four-day meditation retreat, I was given the task of cleaning the dishes after breakfast for the 40 people attending the retreat. Piles of dishes and pots and pans loaded up two sinks: one for soaping and scrubbing, and another for rinsing. A fellow retreatant was at the first sink and I was […]

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Designing Our Dreams The Way We Want Them To Be

What is your dream? Let’s suppose you could dream any dream you wanted to dream and naturally fulfill all your wishes. How might that come into fruition? I’ve been on many meditation retreats but, six years ago, I had a meditation I will never forget. I was sitting in a dark Zendo in the San […]

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The Secret To Making Relationships Great Day-To-Day

I have to admit that I’ve had a lot to learn about relationships. I would say they’ve been one of my greatest life challenges. And it’s all because, at times, I want to be close and, at other times, I want to push away. It took me a long time to realize (depending on how […]

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Freedom From The Judge Back To Self-Love

In the past, when I felt anger or self-doubt, anxiety or terror, sadness, depression, or grief, I wondered… What does loving myself really mean? And how, in the middle of my upset or challenges, do I get there? The #1 thing between me and my self-loving is this little guy called The Judge. He likes to sit […]

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Using Creativity To Make The World A Better Place

Ultimately, I believe that everything we do is creative: The way we think. The way we problem solve. The way we make the most of our lives. Freedom—whether that’s creative freedom or feeling free in life—and play go hand in hand. As kids we took risks without even thinking like doing somersaults down a grass […]

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Quiz: What Are Your Life Lessons And Natural Abilities?

A couple of months ago, we played with numerology to find out your life’s purpose. Here’s another fun way to work with your number to get clearer about your life lessons and natural abilities. Add up your full birthday:   ( __ + __ ) + ( __ + __ ) + ( __ + […]

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35 Creative Questions To Initiate Your Dreams #infographic

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The Art Of Possibility

I was on a very crowded train coming from Times Square and noticed a young woman reading a book with a yellow cover called, The Art Of Possibility. Usually people don’t talk to each other on the train, crowded New Yorkers trying to find whatever space to themselves that they can. But I broke the […]

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The #1 Skill We Need To Make Our Relationships Work.

I had a friend in my early 20s who everyone adored whenever they met him. They thought he was the most interesting and delightful guy they’d ever spoken with. They gushed all over him and, after meeting him, always spoke highly of him.   I was fascinated by this phenomenon, so I played close attention […]

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Overcoming Trying Times and Difficulty.

I was having lunch with my friend, Marty. He’s kind enough to read my Sunday Letters every week and almost always responds with a kind word. I’m grateful for his support and very much appreciate his loyal heart and friendship.   Marty was my playwriting teacher at Cal Arts—27 years ago now. Back then, I […]

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When You Don’t Have The Time To Do What You Really Want To Do.

You know that thing that you’ve been putting off for a while?   That thing your instincts are telling you, “That’s what you should do now.”   That thing you don’t make time for, because you tell yourself you’ll “get to it” eventually—whether it’s fixing a shelf, upgrading your resume, putting a scrapbook together, or […]

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Finding Our Innate Sense of Purpose

As a small child, I entertained myself by playing in my room and creating a whole imaginary world.   I danced to records (Chorus Line—my eldest brother’s favorite—or Michael Jackson’s Off The Wall, my first rock record also given to me by my brothers).   My stuffed animals all had special relationships: Orca The Sea […]

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Busting Through Boredom.

Have you ever had a day where you’ve just grown sick and tired?   Like when you have the flu and you’ve been in a bed for a week and you simply can’t lie there healing any longer?   Or you start feeling bored from doing the same damn thing over and over? The same […]

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4 Easy Tips to Create Happiness and Freedom Every Day

In the past, I was not known as a happy, wild, and free person. (OK maybe wild, I had my moments …) In stuck phases, peppered with depression, darkness, and hopelessness, I often wondered what it would be like to feel happy, wild, and free.   I fantasized about living in Europe, writing in cafes […]

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The #1 Way To Have The Relationship You Want

  I invited a friend of mine, who was my acting scene partner in a theater workshop in NYC, to go to a Broadway musical reading with me one night. She’s 29 years old and was asking me, “the older person” advice about a guy she was seeing.   She was upset, because right before […]

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Why It’s Crucial You Do That Thing That Interests You.

When I was 28 years old, I was at a painting workshop in Taos, New Mexico. One of the workshop attendees was from Switzerland and, while she was listening with all of us to our teacher speak about creativity principles, she knitted.   Not growing up in a very crafty home, I had never seen […]

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Creatively Blocked? How To Get Re-inspired.

When I finished writing my first draft of a book on creativity, I felt like I’d poured out  every last creativity tip I had.   Just like with the ending of any creative project, when I’d completed the manuscript and sent it out to various book agents to review, I grieved.   What if that’s […]

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3 Tips To Getting What You Want Faster.

A reader asks: When I’m trusting the repeated signs to wait for something new that’s soon to manifest, I struggle with the doubt guy inside me who wants to be practical and ignore the idea of waiting for what I’m being told is something perfect and to wait patiently. (Using Oracle cards and intuition.) Am […]

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Who Am I In The Midst Of Change?

A reader writes: I’m going through a period of immense change. I feel like I’m at a point in my journey where I’ve had to end some really close relationships and leave a job because they weren’t aligned with my values, priorities, or path of growth. Still, change isn’t easy. Change itself causes a lot […]

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Quiz: What’s Your Element And What Does It Mean?

Hi! In last week’s article I announced that I was eager to hear more from you by opening these posts to comments. And there was a glitch. The link didn’t work. My apologies! Please feel free to comment below. I would love to hear what your element is!  Here’s a fun quiz for you: Write […]

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Knowing Our Purpose: Which One’s The Right One?

***Hi! I’ve been spending more time online recently and thinking about all of you, so interested in your dreams and work you’re doing in your life.  Beginning today I’m opening these articles to comments to have a central place for your thoughts and responses. (Of course, still feel free to comment on Facebook or other […]

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Busting Through Our Blockages.

I was catching up with my old friend, Carol. She was the co-teacher at the painting workshops I attended for 15 years. With hands gently resting inside her apron’s pockets, she’d carefully mosey over from the corner of the studio to check in with me as I painted. Mostly, I’d welcome her presence, knowing from […]

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3 Quick Tips To Subside Anxiety & Panic Attacks

A reader writes: I’m a 22-year old medical student from Sweden. I’ve been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for the last 4 months, and my biggest problem is not knowing which of all methods to stick with. I’m on medication, doing CBT, doing mindfulness meditations daily, trying affirmations, get good sleep, avoiding alcohol and […]

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Finding & Keeping Inspiration

The definition of inspiration is: Divine influence directly and immediately exerted on the mind or soul. A quickening, exalting influence. To produce or arise a feeling. To guide or control by divine influence. It’s a sudden idea, a feeling you must do something, and then finding you have all the energy needed to do it. […]

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What’s Your Life Purpose? Find Out With Numerology.

Did you know your birth name helps you to discover more about your life purpose(s)? Here’s how: Write your full name from your birth certificate and place the numbers that correspond to each letter underneath: A:1 B:2 C:3 D:4 E:5 F:6 G:7 H:8 I:9 J:1 K:2 L:3 M:4 N:5 O:6 P:7 Q:8 R:9 S:1 T:2 […]

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Stuck In A Wrong Place? Getting Out Of it.

A reader writes: I’m 60 and lost my full-time job in December. (It was mutual). I’m in healthcare, and I still need to work to cover my bills. I have since found another job that promised to be low-key, but I’m now realizing that the better I do my job, the more responsibility is mine, […]

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When Things Get Good, Why Do Bad Things Happen?

A little while back, I wrote a Sunday article on grief. I’d written about my experience with grief before but this was the first time I really, truly felt on the other side of it. The writing came out of me with a strong current of energy. When I feel that kind of power, I […]

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How to Let Go Of Something That No Longer Serves You

A reader writes: I’m feeling stuck, emotionally drained from an almost 5 year on and off relationship. I don’t know how to move on because for some reason I can’t let go no matter how hard I try. We love each other but can’t seem to make it work. Past hurt and disappointment leave me […]

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How To Not Let Your Emotions Carry You Away

A couple of months ago I wrote this article, Can We Do This Together? I was touched and overwhelmed by the response, THANK YOU! I’m really interested in learning more about what YOU need, how I can help, and how we can all learn from each other. There were such interesting and insightful questions that […]

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How The Happiest Man On Earth Stays Happy.

The Business Insider published an article last January about a 69 year-old Tibetan Buddhist monk from France who’s been called the world’s happiest man. His name is Matthieu Ricard. What makes him the happiest man is that he participated in a 12-year brain study on meditation led by a neuroscientist from the university of Wisconsin, […]

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The Highest Good Of Creativity.

When I was counseling, before every session with a client, I’d take a few minutes to center myself in myself. I’d invoke my Highest Self to come forward and I’d say, May this session be for the Highest Good Of All Concerned. I imagined in my mind’s eye, I was a hollow channel and asked […]

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Gifts To Receive Right Here. Right Now.

When I moved to Santa Fe in my mid-twenties to write with Natalie Goldberg, author of Wild Mind, we took a walk next to the Acequia Madre that runs through the east of town. As we walked she asked me if I knew what the Acequia Madre was. Of course I didn’t. It’s the mother […]

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Why It’s OK To Procrastinate: Staying In The Zone.

When I was getting my Masters in counseling psychology my teachers would always say, Do your homework early! I took it very seriously and most times went straight home after class to start writing my papers due the next month. I’m what some psychologists coin a pre-crastinator. I overcompensated because I procrastinated as an undergrad. […]

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3 Factors To Be Free From Suffering.

There tend to be 3 types of people: Those who tend to say yes Those who tend to say no And those who tend to say I’m not sure YES people tend to gravitate towards a positive, open-minded nature, love people, want to do everything they can to help, and are eager to try new […]

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Loving Reminders From My Mother.

One quiet Saturday night at home I was thinking about my mother. She passed away four years ago. I had this aching feeling of missing her and found myself talking to her out loud. Mom, could you come back for just a second? I’m starting to forget who you were. I remembered an email conversation […]

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5 Fun Free Tools To Find Out More About YOU!

I had a phase where I was into everything woo-woo that could tell me more about who I was and where I was going. I thought it was cool. And as we know, I’m into games, which is why I created two. I think it’s fun to discover more about myself. I’m still reminded of […]

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An Instant Healing Offering.

I was having a delightful dinner with a good friend and we were talking about how amazed we were that no matter how much we worry or get upset things still work out. I said to her, What’s this all about? We worry and get upset and yet whatever happens we’re still fine in the […]

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Grief: A Big Bowl To Hold.

Several years ago, I experienced profound loss. My parents both died of cancer, I had many miscarriages, my husband and I divorced and my dog of 16 years had to be put down. Phew! It was intensely difficult and I fell apart. I hardly recognized myself. At the same time, even in my darkest hour, […]

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Can We Do This Together?

I hit a block. I wasn’t sure what to write about for this week’s article. So I thought, why don’t I work out my block WITH you? The first thing I do when I hit a block is ask myself, What are my judgments? It took me awhile. My mind was like, I don’t know. […]

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Want To Have A Moment You’ll Never Forget?

When I was a kid, I wanted to eat my crayons. Not for any other reason than I loved all the colors and didn’t know what else to do with them. In my mid-twenties, I was travelling and inspired to paint for the first time. In my backpack I carried a small set of Gouache […]

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What Makes Us Present? This One’s A Surprise!

I was watching Dustin Hoffman’s Master Class on acting and loved some things he said. Way before everyone got on the “be present” bandwagon, that was the crux of what any acting teacher taught. When I was a much younger actress, I didn’t get it. I could tap into my emotions freely, but I didn’t […]

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Setting Those Voices In Our Head Straight.

Someone I care about very much has tinnitus. He was helping build a house for Habitats of Humanity, and while using a power drill, his ear went POP. Ever since that day (it’s been many years now) he has a ringing in his head that just won’t stop. Nor will it ever. I cannot imagine […]

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What We Fear Isn’t As Scary As We Might Think.

Making art can be a terrifying experience. Meeting a white piece of paper or staring at a blinking cursor on a Word document takes tremendous courage. Why? Because we’re facing emptiness. Anyone knows what it feels like to face the terrifying unknown. We try to soothe the fear by filling the space with whatever we […]

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Do You Know What You Want?

I was taking a walk with a friend who has written well-known films and plays that have won awards and been performed all around the world. While we were walking, I asked him questions about his creative process. And, as I’m prone to do, I could apply everything he was saying about writing TO LIFE. […]

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Does What You Feel Mean Something About You?

After two decades of painting, this year was the first time I showed my paintings to anyone publicly. They were meant as a safe space in which I could explore and express myself. Since I’ve begun to show them, some people are moved by them. Many aren’t. It’s not their thing. Some find them to […]

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Wishing You Love This Valentine’s Day!

Today is a day to share our love with our beloveds. Some of us may not have a special someone. But regardless of either, the strongest love of ALL is with ourselves. As Oscar Wilde says, To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance . . . “Self-love” seems to be a […]

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Are We Really Who We Think We Are?

I like to think of myself as an artist. It is, after all, what has meaning in my life. But I am NOT a fan of nouns. Nouns such as: Artist. Painter. Writer. Etc. The reason why is when we refer to ourselves as a “noun”, we create a solid, fixed sense of self. There’s […]

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Breakdowns Can Be Our Breakthroughs.

Once, I was writing in my journal and I got so sick of what I was writing, I threw my journal out in the trash. Once when I was painting, I disliked an image so much that I used big globs of black paint to cover it up. Once after gaining weight, I got so […]

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Make Mistakes And Be Imperfect! (It’ll Save Your Life.)

I have this nasty habit: I tend to strive for perfection. I just need things to be SO. Like I like them. Working out the way I want. I think, If it’s perfect, then I don’t have to worry. ‘Gotta laugh at myself — because it’s actually the need to make it perfect that causes […]

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Stopped A Project You Started? Here’s How To Continue.

There are times when we’ve started a project and we inevitably come to a place where we stop. Our attention wanes. We lose interest. Or we get bored. Whether it’s a scrapbook, refurbishing a table, or growing a herb garden, at some point we lose our initial enthusiasm. We tell ourselves we don’t have enough […]

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More And More Joy In Store For You!

Many years ago, a friend taught me how to knit. And . . . I really dug it. People who know me think it seems so out of character. (I’m not necessarily the crafty type.) But there’s something about holding the needles and feeling colorful soft yarn between my fingers that gives me so much […]

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It’s A New Year! Handling Stress In Transition.

You know that gap when the past has ended but what you want to create next hasn’t arrived? You’ve set goals or resolutions but wonder how or when you’ll reap the benefits? Or instead you feel wrapped in the silence of winter, unclear on what’s next? Or you feel pressure to create “the new” when […]

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Who Says We Have To Be Happy? Here’s Another Option.

Oprah asked Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, in an interview, “Are you enlightened? And if so, does that mean you’re happy all of the time?” His response was, “Well, no . . . I’d prefer to call it peaceful aliveness.” I knew what he meant — not that I’M enlightened — but […]

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What Do You Do When You Feel Confused?

Confusion is a mind trap. When we feel confused we loop in an endless circle. There seems to be no way out. It’s easier to see confusion as an observer. One’s posture starts to sink inward. Our foreheads crease and eyes narrow. We usually always reach our hand up to our head. When working with […]

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A Magical Way To Find Your Answers

15 years ago, my past painting teacher, Michele Cassou was training me to teach intuitive painting at Esalen. She gave me a great tip that not only ended up helping me as a teacher, but changed my life dramatically. In the workshops, as each attendee stood at the wall in front of their paintings, the […]

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Can’t Control Your Cravings? Try This!

We all have our “thing”. That thing we grab to quell our anxiety or soothe our depression. And we’ve all had that day when nothing seems to go our way. . . We reach for food or deny ourselves sustenance. We grab a drink or a smoke. We exercise compulsively. Or we latch onto a […]

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Rev It Up! Get That Thing Going You’ve Always Wanted To.

Let’s get this party started! In the War of Art – one of my FAVORITE books on the creative process – Steven Pressman talks about what it takes to be a warrior as an artist. And that is . . . To show up under all circumstances every day and treat it like a job. […]

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Is There A Better Boundary You Want To Have In A Relationship?

There’s this word tossed around from pop-psychology. The 12-step groups adhere to it. And many psychologists and psychiatrists I know hate it. The word is co-dependency. I’ve thrown around this term now for more years than I can count. I’ve read numerous books on it. I’ve questioned my own boundaries in my relationships and worried […]

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What’s For Your Highest Good Right Now? An Immediate Answer.

I write these Sunday articles some time before they’re posted and schedule them out on WordPress and Mailchimp. That way I don’t have to worry about making a deadline and can keep on writing for magazines or focus on my memoir. But a funny thing is happening while I read the articles each week as […]

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The Freedom To Flower Fully

You know those important times in life when you want to make something very special? That time and extra effort you put in can stay with you forever. Like a New Year’s Eve night on the town. Or a Valentine’s romantic dinner. Or your wedding. Or that birthday cake you baked. We want it to […]

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When You’ve Been Working On Creating Change – And It’s NOT Coming.

Let’s say something is causing you dissatisfaction: You want to lose weight and you’ve had a couple of good weeks of eating but you STILL don’t fit into that pair of jeans. Or you want to stop losing patience with your kids, and you’re really trying, but you yelled at them AGAIN. Or you’re single […]

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How To Plant The Seed To Create What You Want.

We want something: A relationship. A new house. A career. New friends. Money. A creative project … But it isn’t forthcoming . . . Maybe WHY it isn’t is because we aren’t clear about it. When we’re ready and set an intention, we put the energy in motion to create it. Creation can’t come until […]

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Have You Ever Felt Like A Fraud? I Have.

Sometimes, I think it’s silly that I offer advice to people when my own life is far from perfect. I’ve collected wisdom over the years and don’t always apply it. Or I know what to do or say and don’t do or say it. Or I think, after some life experience, that I know everything. […]

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When The Going Gets Tough, When Is Enough… Enough?

Last spring, I was fortunate enough to take a class with a dynamic yet difficult writing teacher at NYU. She’s a no-holds-barred kind of woman, whose passion to support her students to write well at times overrode a gentle disposition. (My favorite note on one of my essays: This sucks! I don’t care about this… […]

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When To Speak… And When To NOT!

Have you been in this situation? You have something you need to say. Something pressing. Something important. Something you intuitively know you probably shouldn’t say right now. But for whatever reason you come out and say it anyway. And then, you get BITTEN. (That’s what I call that thing that happens when someone doesn’t like […]

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The Clue To Having True Intimacy.

Have you heard the expression Intimacy means INTO ME I SEE? Kinda’ cool, right? When we desire intimacy, the key is to be able to see into our own selves and get clear about what we really need inside of us… We’d LOVE to get that from someone else. Yet, in our desire to create […]

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THE Place To Claim Our Power.

In a writing class years ago with Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down The Bones, she read poetry and excerpts from novelists including Hemingway. She told us, “Good writers don’t ask ‘Why’–they ask ‘HOW’?” Recently, in a writing class I was taking in NYC, while reading other people’s writing, I noticed it’s common for a […]

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What To Do When Someone Mistreats You.

I was in a cab in NYC with my real estate agent and friend. He was tied in a knot, stomach flared, frustrated about a person he was doing a deal with who was out of integrity. He admitted (like a good New Yorker) to flying off the handle and asked me what to do. […]

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Want To Create Instant Fun?

There’s this technique and, if you’re anything like me, you could think it’s the dorkiest of all dorky self-help methods out there. I was first asked to work with this technique when I was living in Santa Fe by a healer and I was like, Oh hell no – don’t put that new age crap […]

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Why Taking On Another Person’s Problem Is Bad For THEIR Health.

CONFESSION TIME: I used to think it was my job to take on other people’s problems—especially in my closest relationships. Quite honestly? I did it to feel better about myself. But EVERY single time I tried to fix or help, I ended up pushing those I loved away rather than creating the closeness I craved. […]

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A Fast-Track Tool To Relieve Yourself From Tension

When we’ve got a hundred things on our plate, it’s super hard sometimes to know how and when to take a break. And even when on vacation or in the times we have to relax, it can be difficult to let go and free ourselves from tension. Our minds may continue without us, coming up […]

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Upset? Finding Peace Right Now.

I remember when I was younger and I was upset, my mother used to say, “Do you need a pat?” She’d ask me to sit next to her and she’d stroke my back. On retreat with Pema Chodron, I learned a cool metaphor in regards to how to handle upsets and I couldn’t help but […]

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When You Have Too Many Creative Ideas! What Do You Do?

Sometimes, I’ll get a call from a client who’s super-excited because they have all these new creative ideas. All these hot projects are in their popper. Many things—all at once—are inspiring them. I call this the “Download Zone.” It’s as if, from out of nowhere, the switch gets turned on. Our inner-vision machines have sparked […]

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Where To Find Joy Immediately

You know those silly meditations when you’re asked to visualize your favorite spot that makes you the happiest or most at peace? My default was this beach in Kauai I once went to on vacation. I could easily invoke a sense of myself there: carefree, relaxed, no worries … tanned skin, wind in my hair, […]

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When You Don’t Get What You Want

What if . . . what we THINK we want isn’t really what we think? When developing my brand, I had one major problem. My offer is that you can create whatever you want. However, It’s flawed. Mick Jagger’s right. We DON’T always get what we want. Far too often, we’ve found ourselves wanting certain […]

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Lets Talk About Jealousy

Jealousy is a bitch. And something most of us would like to deny completely. Here’s the good news: If you feel it—you’re alive! The bad news: If it grabs ‘a hold, you’ve lost something . . . But jealousy CAN BE a blessing. ‘Cause what jealousy ultimately brings to light is the part of ourselves […]

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The #1 Thing NOT To Do When You Start A Project

A friend of mine got a great idea for a screenplay. She was excited about it. She had a sense of what it was about, mentioned it to her friends, did her research and started writing But soon after, she got stuck. Another friend got an idea for a new blog and told her friends […]

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The Secret To Clearing Your Head

My writing teacher Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down The Bones, taught me this secret decades ago and I judged it as overly simple. Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, was on the bandwagon too. And so was Tich Naht Hahn, the famous meditation teacher. And all the meditation teachers I’d ever had, for […]

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How To Have Great Sex . . . EVERY time

Got your attention? I thought that might. *wink* How we are in bed (and in life & with EVERY creative endeavor, in fact) comes down to one thing, and one thing only: How open & willing we are to connect. If we shut down, the spark dies. But if we allow ourselves to fully meet what’s […]

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Why Our Problems Aren’t So Bad, After All. (No, Really.)

I have a BIG problem . . . My problem is that I always look for the problem. It’s pretty fascinating, actually. Because as soon as I have ONE thing figured out, I start wondering what problematic thing could happen NEXT. And in those few moments where NO problem exists, I start searching for the […]

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What If You Could Be BAD? VERY Bad?

After I finish a painting, I put it in a box underneath my bed for safe keeping in date order. Every several years, I pull those paintings out & look at them. I remember what I was going through when I painted them. I’m fascinated when I see the paintings that I HATED at the […]

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If You Don’t Know What’s Next For You – I’ve Got The Answer!

I like to think of myself as a daring adventurer. But in truth, it’s a guise. When I’m traveling, I reserve tickets. I reserve hotel rooms. I reserve a rental car. I’m rarely off the grid or off the map. And if something goes wrong, I don’t always keep my cool. I usually prefer to […]

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The Doldrums – How To WAKE Up!

Sometimes when I’m painting, I get bored. Or tired. Or indifferent. My strokes continue, I keep going for color and meeting brush to paper but I’m just plodding along . . . Nothing fun or exciting is happening. I want to stop painting. At this juncture, I know to ask myself this question: What if […]

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How To Avoid Distraction & Be A Zillion-Times More Productive

HERE’S HOW A DAY COULD ROLL:   You have a project that you scheduled time out for today. And you’ve known for a week that THIS was the day. But as soon as you sit down to start, the phone rings, and you’ve gotta take this call. Next thing you know, you receive a Facebook […]

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Why NOT To Fear in Times of Transition

Sometimes, things don’t make sense. . . . especially when we’re in transition. Like, when a relationship with someone we adore ends. Or we lose a job that we depended on to put food on the table. Or we pour everything into getting something we really want . . . and then we don’t get […]

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How I Made Friends With Anxiety. (And How You Can, Too.)

I’m no stranger to anxiety. I stopped drinking coffee in my twenties because of it. It’s taken me forever to figure out how to deal with it, and I’m relieved to share with you one of my biggest life lessons. It’s been tested—tried and true. (Drum roll, please . . .) Every single time I’ve […]

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How To Make A Decision In One Simple Step

I have four planets in Libra. In other words: I can be VERY indecisive. Whether I want to grab a quick bite, go on vacation somewhere, or live someplace completely new, I tend to go round and round in circles—often not knowing which to choose. Well, THIS is a good option . . . and […]

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When You’re Stuck – One Way To EASILY Get Through

I’ve had those days. When the stuckness I feel is like black sludge and my body so numb I don’t even have the energy to go to sleep. All I want to do is close the blinds and watch back-to-back Netflix episodes. I’ve had those days with writing and painting too. I don’t go to […]

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The #1 Trick To Creating Anything You Want

There is one way—one easy, direct way—to be creatively free. To: write with tons of energy and finish your book quickly take a brush and paint without stopping make a long-held dream come true start a new job—or leave one you’ve outgrown better your relationships complete anything you’ve started with energy and gusto. It’s so […]

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Hello World!

I’VE BEEN EAGERLY ANTICIPATING THE LAUNCH OF MY NEW WEBSITE AND I’M SO EXCITED YOU’RE HERE! The process of creating all of this has brought me so much joy. I hope you enjoy my new virtual home as much as I do, and that it inspires you and sparks some new, creative ideas. For those […]

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