Have you ever wanted something so badly, didn’t get it, and then realized there was actually another option that was better than the first?
Like a person you had a crush on, who didn’t have the same feelings back, and you could easily see later on when you started dating someone else with more chemistry how your first fleeting crush wasn’t right for you at all?
Or you listened to your intuition, rather than to your rational mind, and were protected by ending up someplace much better for you physically or emotionally?
Or have you ever been attached to a certain outcome and, when it didn’t work out the way you wanted, were happily more satisfied with an even better development?
This can even happen in everyday life choices, like a fancy restaurant you wanted to go to on your anniversary but couldn’t get a reservation, and then when forced to play it by ear, found yourself enjoying a casual romantic night at home with good conversation over pizza and a bottle of wine.
Or in larger life choices, when you lost a job, or a business failed, and then you realized later that there was another job, career, or acquisition that was better for you right around the bend?
There’s this thing called preference. We think there is a certain choice, when there could be many other interesting innovative options we could explore, or possibilities we don’t know about until they present themselves to us.
Our preference favors a particular result, thinking it has the right to have everything the way it wants, as it wants it, without knowing that there could be something else that’s more in alignment with our needs.
Creativity is not interested in our preferences. It has a higher cause, something beyond us it wants us to experience, know or see—a place it wants to lead us to. It works at a different frequency, more profound than our preference can hear. It gives us the gift of coming to understand what is really the priority.
Just because it’s not what we thought we wanted doesn’t make it worthy. Letting go of preference can support us to achieve even better results.
When we don’t allow ourselves to let go and go with the flow, to rest in the uncertainty and be curious about how things unfold, it’s like we take our hand and push away the love that life wants for us.
We stop creativity’s benefits before we even begin. We set our aspirations aside for another time and our attention goes onto something else, most likely something less meaningful, important or significant.
We give up way too fast just when the energy is ready to inspire us.
We snuff the light out before we give ourselves room to see what it illuminates.
Creative mistakes can be nature’s blessings. They teach us courage, stretch us into greater expansiveness, and encourage us to trust.
It took 177 years to build the Tower of Pisa and only 10 years for it to start leaning, but it’s now a beautiful iconic world monument.
An inventor named Richard Jones was designing a monitor power for battleships, when one of the tension springs fell to the ground. The spring started bouncing around and became the slinky we know today.
Sir Alexander Fleming, in his pursuit to cure diseases, threw away a Petri dish only to discover the mold from the bacteria formed contained penicillin.
Ruth Wakefield, owner of the Toll House Inn, was making chocolate cookies and realized she was out of baker’s chocolate. When she broke sweetened chocolate into pieces she expected them to melt, but the chunks didn’t.
A Canon engineer accidently rested an iron on his pen, which caused the pen to eject ink and now we have the ink-jet printer.
And an unknown chef in China was experimenting in the kitchen, combining charcoal, sulfur and saltpeter and now, 2000 years later, the world celebrates with fireworks.
Our permission is all that’s needed. I guarantee you that if you meet whatever is fully present with self-awareness and open-minded receptivity, you’ll continue into greatness.
Wishing you major f*ck-ups!